“Everybody wants to get better; nobody wants to change.”  I don’t know who said that but my experience and observation say it’s true.  I want to lose weight but don’t want to improve my eating or lifestyle habits.  I want to be out of debt but  don’t want to alter my spending habits.  I want to love more deeply but don’t want to be too vulnerable.  And on it goes…until I decide that the change payoff  is worth the discomfort the change process may bring.   When I make that decision I’ll change for good.